Living in Wonju South Korea, These Many Long Years

Living in Wonju South Korea, These Many Long Years: Version 2.0!

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Bullies!

A while back I had a serious conversation with the eldest.  She takes the city bus to school everyday, and a group of older boys had been teasing her.

What do they say honey?  I don't know, stuff.  Does it make you mad?  Yeah, scared and sad too.  They are a lot bigger than me.

Well darlin', you can't show them that they make you upset.  As soon as they see that, it'll just make them tease you more, since they know they can get to you.  Don't get mad.  Just look at them with a straight face.  You're strong enough to do that.  If it's hard at first at the very least just ignore them.  But again, whatever you do don't show that they've affected you.

What's affected?

It's when you feel moved by someone or something, a situation that draws a reaction from you in some way, any reaction.  Don't give them the pleasure of seeing any reaction from you.

OK.

A couple of weeks passed during which she followed my advice.  Are the boys still bothering you honey?  No, I did what you said and now they leave me alone.  I'm not scared of them anymore either!  Good job sweetie.  Now for your next lesson let's work on the raised eyebrow and condescending look.  And if they try to physically hurt you, you kick them here, or hit them in the temple, nose, or throat. 

Time for coffee.

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